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Am I the Asshole for telling my husband that he can figure it out on his own? Maybe I am being ignorant, maybe I am not. That is why I am here. Admittedly, I am fuming. Please bear with me. I have been with Jake for 12 years, 9 of which I was in the medical field and the breadwinner. He worked at a medical marijuana farm, making $10 less than me, with roughly 12 fewer hours weekly. We wanted a baby. We had savings, a paid-off house and vehicles, so we started trying. It only took a month. I have