It enables you to stop blaming and take back your life. In everyday life, self-confrontation may mean you stop blaming your employer for your unhappiness and begin to face your fear of looking for a different job. You stop complaining about your adult child's irresponsible money management and acknowledge that you do more harm than good when you keep lending him or her money. You stop blaming your parents for being so demanding, knowing the real issue is your inability to say no when they ask