If you just got dumped, most people either want to text them or stalk their social media to see what they're doing. But both are a big mistake because every time you look, the wound that needs to heal cuts just a little bit deeper and you're destroying yourself without even realizing it. Here is a psychology trick to help you get through this in a healthier way. Put the phone down. Stop stalking. The pain in your heart is going to take time to go away, but it is not going to last forever.