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Stopping "should" shaming – Ending the self-imposed guilt game Unless you are already aware of the damage it causes, you probably say "should" at least a few times a day. According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, the word "should" expresses obligation or expectation. The internal message, however, when we say "I should" do something, is inherently negative. For example, saying "I should go to the gym" means I know I would benefit from going to the gym. What is implied in the "should" statem