Pāhonoa te oro

So I (20F) have a birthday coming up in a few months. I honestly don't put much stock into birthdays, but admittedly I was looking forward to my 21st. My partner's (19F) mom is a NIGHTMARE. We are long distance, she's moving in with me later this year and her mom is not taking it well in the slightest. Her mom also wants to see where her daughter is going to be living, so a while ago (when she was acting a little more sane) we threw around the idea of her coming down to celebrate my 21st. Long