Pāhonoa te oro

Am I the asshole for exposing my wife’s "secret tax" on my parents and potentially ending our marriage? I just found the ledger today, and honestly, I feel like I’m going to throw up. My parents have been coming over every single weekday for three years to help us watch our daughter. They are retired and live on a fixed income, but they wanted to be involved. Three years ago, my wife told them that our neighborhood association had a mandatory "childcare contribution fee." She told them every cen