Pāhonoa te oro

I cheated less than a year into marriage and destroyed everything I (31M) destroyed my marriage less than a year after getting married, and I’m still living with the consequences. My wife (29F) and I had been together for almost 10 years before we married. Looking back now, there were cracks long before the wedding—mostly around money. She owed me thousands, had credit card debt, Klarna and buy-now-pay-later balances, and would regularly take money from our joint account without telling me. It